For a database
SELECT
default_character_set_name
FROM
information_schema.SCHEMATA S
WHERE
schema_name = "schemaname";
For a single table
SELECT
CCSA.character_set_name
FROM
information_schema.`TABLES` T,
information_schema.`COLLATION_CHARACTER_SET_APPLICABILITY` CCSA
WHERE
CCSA.collation_name = T.table_collation
AND T.table_schema = "schemaname"
AND T.table_name = "tablename";
For an individual column
SELECT
character_set_name
FROM
information_schema.`COLUMNS` C
WHERE
table_schema = "schemaname"
AND table_name = "tablename"
AND column_name = "columnname";
Setting the character set
ALTER DATABASE mydatabasename charset=utf8;
Changing the collation for a singe table
ALTER TABLE tab CONVERT TO CHARACTER SET utf8 COLLATE utf8_unicode_ci;
From here